How To Deal When Someone Doesn’t Like You
You could be a warm slice of my grandma’s old fashioned apple pie, and there will still be people who don’t like apples or even pie for that matter (Bye Felicia). And there will always be people who don’t like you! Not everyone likes you, but not everyone needs to.
If there’s one thing I have learned in my 30s that I wish I had in my 20s, it would be this lesson!
Chances are, someone thinks you’re too bossy, or lazy or weird and they may not like you for it. Some people don’t like you because you’re not successful enough (in their eyes) or maybe you’re too successful! Worst of all, some people won’t like you- just because.
Good news is- these are not your people and you need to just move on in order to find your tribe!
Not Everyone Needs To Like You
Not everyone likes me. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but I’m learning how to accept this by caring less about the people who don’t like me and more about the people who do! You can try your hardest to please everyone, only to suffer rejection or you can accept that you are not gonna be everyone’s cup of tea. I don’t even like tea.
It’s natural to want to be liked. But for people pleasers, being accepted and well-liked is often more important than being true to yourself. If you struggle to say no, or have difficulty voicing your own opinion and often obsess over what other’s think of you than chances are you are a people pleaser. Being too nice can be dangerous, leaving you emotionally drained, unsure of who you are, and can leave you vulnerable to abuse. Source
I’ve never been a total people pleaser, but I want people to like me and accept me for who I am. This was especially true when I was a bit younger. Something I’ve learned along the way that has helped me gain peace is to stop giving a F about what people think of me and to just simply be me. But I am human and sometimes hurts a bit when I find out someone doesn’t like me. I’ll often wonder, what’s wrong with me? What did I do to make that person not like me? But the truth is, it’s not about me. It’s about them. And I can do everything in my power to make that person like me, only to turn around and have someone else bash me. It would be impossible to please everyone.
Not everyone likes you, but loving yourself first is the key to happiness and finding who you really are.
Stop Letting It Bother You So Much
When you allow yourself to care too much about what other’s think of you, you are allowing that negativity in to your mind. You begin to have self-doubt and it affects your self-esteem.
When you’re in control of your thoughts, and don’t allow what other’s think or feel to get you down, you begin to believe in yourself again! Your self-confidence returns. You remove self-doubt and you start living life for YOU!
This article below will help you workout your emotions the right way, and build your emotional strength!
How To Get Passed It
I think I’m often misunderstood, because I have anxiety and I’m very empathetic. I often feel someone’s vibes before they even express their feelings. Sounds crazy, I know but it’s a real blessing and burden at the same time. I know I’m not liked by everyone, but I’m loved by plenty! Not everyone likes you!
You can be super sweet, and someone will think you’re fake or you can be opinionated and someone will think you’re rude! You simply can not please everyone. Let it go. Focus that energy on the people who do like you.
I love this quote by Dita Von Teese. And, personally I love peaches 🙂
When you’re younger, being popular is everything. High school is hard and the need to fit in is on over-drive. Being disliked, or worse-being bullied can lead to depression.
There’s a feeling of empowerment in not giving a damn and in embracing who you are. When you conform to meet someone else’s expectations, you lose what makes you, unique! By showing your vulnerable side and remaining true to yourself, you make real friends and find the people you are most compatible with.
Sure, someone might think you’re weird, but someone else will think you’re inspiring!
Dealing With People Who Don’t Like You
Life is too short to be anyone but you, but sometimes we are forced to be around people who don’t like you. Maybe it’s a coworker or a family member. Don’t let them fill you with self doubt.
Remind yourself about that juicy peach. Step back, it’s out of your control. Bear with them, instead of avoiding them. Put on your poker face, remaining professional at the workplace and respectful of family members. You don’t have to be besties, but you can be the bigger person and get over it.
Allow for space between you and those who don’t like you. When it gets too much, go for a walk or busy yourself in another room focusing on something other than the hater!
Not everyone understands you. In my perfect world, everyone would love and understand you. Embrace your weirdness and love yourself first. The rest will come! And, if you liked this post comment down below:)