How Do You Handle Your Emotions?
We tend to think of being emotional as a sign of weakness, but if you think about it – a big dude with muscles throwing a tantrum cuz he didn’t like how someone looked at him is clearly the (emotionally) weak one here… just don’t tell him I said that! An emotionally intelligent person can control their emotions and express them effectively. Mental strength is important too! Being emotional doesn’t have to mean crying. I am very emotional, but hardly ever cry! Let me explain with some emotional intelligence examples and ways to build your emotional intelligence skills.
Physical strength is one thing, but how emotionally strong are you? I wasn’t sure how to answer that! Understanding and managing our emotions effectively isn’t always easy, but after reading this I’ll have you on your way to becoming an emotional powerhouse! Think of this as a workout for your mind! It might not be able to give you the abs you want, but I believe it’ll help you get the life you want!
Imagine being able to understand what people are really feeling and not just what they’re saying. Or, influencing people’s decisions because of how well you communicate?…Nope, this isn’t magic, it’s science.
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I’m Emotional, But Don’t Show It!
I’m an emotional person and society has sometimes made me feel like it’s one of my weaknesses, when in reality it is actually a strength… if you can learn to be smart about your emotions! When I say I’m emotional, I don’t mean I cry a lot. I rarely cry. I also don’t mean I rage either. What I mean is that I feel deeply. Learning more about emotional intelligence has helped me not only understand how to control and manage my emotions smarter, but also that emotional intelligence is an amazing gift we can all learn! After learning how to recognize and build emotional strength, I’ve realized I am actually pretty emotionally strong to begin with. I was raised to manage my emotions effectively from a young age, which stuck with me as an adult.
Knowing your EQ may be more important than your IQ. Emotionally intelligent people are more confident, focused and more likely to succeed source. They also understand others really well!
I’m sure you’ve heard of Emotional Intelligence, but if not – it involves understanding and managing your emotions… well, intelligently! Through recognizing your emotions, you can better control your life and understand those around you! It’s becoming more popular as we discover the benefits and importance of EI and not just the old standard IQ! How we handle certain situations and circumstances, how we deal with our feelings and express our emotions has a major impact on our relationships, jobs, and lives. Our feelings are literally everything we are! For some people it seems to come naturally. Maybe they grew up with emotionally intelligent parents and were taught from a young age the tools to manage how they think and feel. Or maybe it’s partially in your genes. Either way, there are many tools you can use to help manage your emotions, better!
What Is Emotional Intelligence?
So, what is emotional intelligence? I consider it like a missing piece of your puzzle. It’s like that cartoon of the girl saying, Oh, I knew I forgot something. A career! Well, in this case, we become aware that someone, somewhere along the line forgot to tell us how to be smart about our emotions. At least in words we could understand!
But are you or are you not smart about your emotions? I didn’t really understand how to assess how I deal with my emotions, so I decided to do some research!
As kids, we often throw tantrums and are taught how to better handle our emotions. This sort of sets us up for emotional intelligence. But each of us handles our own emotions, our own way and how we do this has a great impact on our lives. Some kids weren’t taught how to handle their emotions and still throw tantrums as adults when they’re upset oroverwhelmed! People who can’t control their emotions or have a hard time expressing their feelings don’t likely have a higher EQ. But, there are ways to strengthen your emotional intelligence.
How To Assess Your Emotional Strength
One standard for judging your emotional intelligence skills would certainly be how well things are going for you at work and at home, because our EQ is more important to our happiness, success and health than our IQ.
If things aren’t going well, you can probably improve your life drastically by improving your emotional intelligence! The great thing about it is, you learn the tools, and then the applications are all around you. No matter what situation you’re in, or what circumstance, improving your Emotional Intelligence skills will help. You’ll become more aware of what’s going on around you the things you couldn’t quite grasp before. You’ll also become a lot more knowledgeable about what’s going on with other people, and isn’t that always the most difficult thing to figure out?
Recognizing Others’ Emotions
This is huge- 90 per cent of any persons emotional expression takes place nonverbally! Reading a person’s nonverbal behaviour can help you understand a person’s motives much more accurately than just listening to what their mouths are saying. The body talks too, and often louder than words!
Read the expression on a person’s face, how they sit, how they walk, their tone of voice, the moments of silence, the look in their eyes! These are all clues as to how someone is feeling emotionally.
Why Is This Important?
They might be telling you HOW they Think, but How they FEEL is what’s going to influence their next move. Whether they’re going to buy a product, hire you for a job or ask you to marry them. These are all influenced by feelings. Understanding how this works can really help you understand your own feelings so much better!
Be Smart About Your Emotions At Work
Improving your emotional intelligence can greatly improve your workplace performance! Some of the most successful people around you, are probably very emotionally smart! You can be too!
In most jobs you’ll need to motivate others, which involves good communication skills. Being able to read peoples’ nonverbal communication is key! Motivation comes from feelings, not thinking! If you can connect with what’s important to the person you’re dealing with, or connect everyone TO an IDEA or Mission then you can motivate them in your direction. A person may say they want to buy your product or that they love your service or ideas, but actually they hate it. Isn’t it better to be able to read their nonverbal communication?!
Emotions At Home
Work is important, but home is where we live. If your relationships are aren’t very good, nothing at work will matter. It’ll also be harder to focus and concentrate on your job. Why? Because we don’t just leave part of us at home when we head to work for the day. We are our emotions. They’re a BIG part of us, and they go everywhere we go!
Couples who communicate better, have better marriages. Couples who don’t know how to express their emotions intelligently, end up fighting all the time.
As parents, one of the best lessons you can teach your children is the knowlegde of emotional intelligence and good modeling of emotionally intelligent behaviour is a great way to start.
Emotional Intelligence Examples
Actions To Take To Improve Your Emotional Strength:
1. Think About Your Feelings.
Emotional intelligence starts and ends with self and social-awareness. Recognizing how you feel and how others feel will help you understand yourself and those around you so much better. What are your emotional strengths and weaknesses? How am I currently feeling? What’s really going on underneath it all?
You can’t learn emotional intelligence by just reading about it. You need to work on it through your thoughts and actions. It’s a process. It’s difficult to change something you cant see clearly and we don’t see ourselves as others see us!
Figuring out how to better read others has really helped me understand how I come across and how others see me too! So, I can improve how I am portrayed! Sometimes, because of anxiety or whatever, I come acrooss as rude or mean! Practicing emotional intelligence has helped me fix that!
2. Think Before You Speak And Act.
Such a simple thing, that EVERYONE can benefit from. Ever say something out of anger, that you quickly regretted? Or do something without thinking first and ended up completely embarrassed? Me too! Taking the time to think about what you say or do can save you from doing something you’ll regret. It does take some strength, but just like working your glutes at the gym, it gets easier over time!
3. Give Praise. We all want to be acknowledged for our efforts. When you recognize other people’s achievements, you’ll instantly feel better youself. It also builds trust!
4. Be Honest. Being honest about how you’re feeling instead of bottling it up with help others understand you better. You’ll also feel a lot better! It’s not always easy to be honest, especially if it’ll hurt someone’s feelings. I used to agree to things I didn’t necessarily want to do because I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. But, since I started speaking up and just being honest about how I feel, I’ve become way more confident…. and emotionally stronger! I am not saying to be brutally honest! There is a difference, and if you’re emotionally strong you’ll understand it!
5. Let Go Of Grudges. Forgiving and forgetting is a great way to build your emotional strength! When you hold on to anger toward someone, it’s really only hurting you! Don’t let others control your emotions! By letting go, you’re taking full control of your own emotions!
6. Learn To Say Sorry. Saying you’re sorry when you’re in the wrong (or sometimes even when you’re not) takes strength. It shows humility, which automatically makes others feel differently about you. If you value a relationship, saying sorry doesn’t mean you’re totally wrong. It means you care deeply about keeping that relationship strong and moving on!
7. Be Yourself. This goes hand in hand with being honest. Don’t be afraid to feel what you are feeling and speak it out loud. Pretending to be someone or something else is so exhausting, mentally! Stick by your values and principles and understand that not everyone will agree with it.
8. Accept Criticism. This is a tough one. Noone wants to hear they’re doing something wrong or that they’re bad at something. It’s always going to be tough to hear, but try and keep your emotions in check and use the criticism to either improve or move on and find something you are great at. You can’t be great at everything!
9. Live In The Moment. This is so beneficial. I’m usually go-go-go and have a million things on my mind, making it hard to enjoy and live in the moment. I let my thoughts distract me sometimes. Lately, I’ve been trying to make a note to live more in the moment and just enjoy what I’m doing at the time. Writing a to-do list can help you stay organized, and having it all down on paper can help keep it out of your every thought!
10. Learn To Control Yourself. You can’t always control how you feel, but you can control how to choose to react. An emotionally strong person doesn’t blow up when they’re angry. They think rationally and take a moment to think things over before they react.
Give It Time!
Just like going to the gym, it takes time to see real results when building your emotional strength! It’s easy in the beginning to fall back into old emotional habits, but with time and practice it is totally possible to improve your emotional strength!
I think pretty much all of us can benefit from this post. It can be hard to maintain your cool in some instances.
So hard! But so worth it;)
The significance of understanding the importance of emotional intelligence has been so under-recognised for so long. If more of us made more of a conscious effort to think about this, I think the world would be a much nicer place! Great comprehensive article to help people understand more.
Thank you 🙂 it’s something I didn’t really understand until recently! I’ve noticed how much it’s changed my life and just HAD to SHARE:)
This is something we should also teach the kids. It is nice to see them excel academically, but building their emotional intelligence is just as important for them to grow up into loving, caring, responsible adults.
So true! The kids who aren’t able to share their emotions openly, take that with them into adulthood!
Emotional intelligence is so important to succeed in life. I wish this was taught in schools.
I know I could really use the tips from this post. Keeping a level head all the time can be very difficult
I studied EQ for years with Daniel Goleman. Your post breaks it down beautifully and makes his research very practical.
You did? That’s so cool! Has it helped you??
There are some really good useful advice here. Having good emotional intelligence is useful xx
It’s such an interesting subject which I too believe is essential for success. Nice read. I by the way conduct 2 day programs on EI with Managers of a top Indian Bank and other professionals.
Being emotionally intelligent is so critical, I find! Knowing how you feel and being able to work toward keeping your mental state balanced and well taken care of is crucial for your personal mental health.
These are great advices! I love people with high Emotional Intelligence as they are more fun to be with! These are very practical tips!
Thinking first is so important for me, especially when speaking with my husband. These are all great tips that everyone could benefit from!
This is really useful information. Nothing is worse than losing all control of your emotions.
7. is so, so important! You’ve got to be yourself, accept it, and own it!
It’s always important to be physically and mentally strong. Those are some great tips to know and follow.
great tips. communication is key, one of the most important.
Emotional intelligence is very important. My children are learning about emotional and job hunting in middle school.
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