Signs He/She Might Be ‘The One’
It’s easy to get lost in a new relationship with butterflies in your stomach and the future on your mind. Most of us want to find our forever one, but it’s not always easy to tell if you’ve found ‘the one.’ After all, those butterflies have been wrong in the past. So, what are some signs to look for in a great match for you? Read on…
12 Things To Look For In A Relationship
The other person’s average is good enough. It can be easy to love someone when they’re at their absolute best, but you don’t get someone’s best day after day. How do you feel about your partner’s average? Their average day is much more important than their best day.
The other person’s worst is manageable. Some people are pretty great on average, but their worst is far too much to deal with. This is often demonstrated in those with serious anger-management issues. When you’ve found “the one”, you won’t mind dealing with the worst they have to offer.
They respect your personal boundaries. It’s important for you in any relationship to set healthy boundaries like respecting your goals, friendships and finances. If they can’t respect your boundaries, they don’t really respect you.
They don’t scare off when you are in a bad mood. Bad moods happen. It’s a natural part of life. If the relationship is going to last, you’ll have to work together even through the bad days. Bonus points if he brings you your favourite ice cream the next time you are feeling down!
They really do like you just the way you are and they show you that. If they point out flaws, just walk away. You don’t have to change to please them. The right one will love you for who you are, not who they want you to be.
They talk about their exes with respect. The X factor is a touchy subject for most, and although you don’t likely want your partner to be best friends with their ex, you don’t want them to talk disrespectful about them either.
Low drama. When you’re with the right person, the relationship should be largely drama-free. Relationships rarely get easier. They generally become more challenging after the honeymoon phase is over. Regular arguments and hard feelings aren’t a positive sign for the future.
High comfort. When you’ve found “the one”, you’ll feel a lot of comfort just being near them. They feel like home. A peaceful life is a happy life. Your relationship should be a place of peace rather than a place of turmoil.
You share a similar vision for the future. It’s necessary to have similar plans for the future. Otherwise, at least one of you is guaranteed to be unhappy. If your vision for the future is really different from theirs, you probably haven’t found “the one” just yet.
You feel free to be yourself. Do you feel that you have to act a certain way or work on yourself in order to make your partner happy? If you’re not doing it for you, than it just won’t work and it’s exhausting. You’ll only end up unhappy. When you’ve found the right person, you feel comfortable being your true self.
You share similar values. Are your values the same? Do you have the same priorities? The relationship will be a challenge if you’re not on the same page. Imagine the conflict between someone that values success, money, and fame and someone that values modesty, moderation, and charity.
You’re best friends. “The one” will be your best friend. Why would you share your daily life, a bank account, and all of life’s ups and downs with anyone other than your best friend?
You just know it. Sometimes, you can just feel it in your gut. You just know with absolute certainty that this is the right person for you. However, ask yourself if you’ve thought this before about someone else and been wrong.
It’s easy to be misled by your feelings. Hands up if you’ve been head over heels at some point in your life for someone that you can’t stand to even look at today.
Many relationships start out with a butterflies and passion, only to crash and burn a short time later.
The people that are exciting to us aren’t necessarily the best match for a long-term relationship.
I’ve been lucky enough to find my one and check off this list!
Use the above list of relationship green lights in your relationship. The more boxes you can check, the better the odds that you’ve finally found the right person for you. Don’t ignore the red flags and pay attention to the green lights.