People with low self esteem see the world as a hostile place and tend to see themselves as a victim, says Psychiatrist Neel Burton M.D. This makes it hard for them to assert themselves which can mean they miss out on opportunity and success in life. But it doesn’t have to be this way for you!
A cycle of low self esteem can be difficult to break free of because often there is a certain amount of comfort in not trying new things. Gaining confidence to do something new can take a lot of effort sometimes and is often daunting. However, there are gradual steps that can help you slowly boost your confidence daily.
1. List Your Strengths and Achievements
It takes some positivity sometimes to boost your confidence and requires you to shift focus from negative thoughts. Take time each day to sit and write a list of your strengths and your achievements. This may be the same list each day but gradually you may find something new that you can add. The main intent is to show yourself daily all of your positives and make you acknowledge them.
As your confidence grows you may find yourself adding new strengths that you didn’t realize you had or having achieved a new goal. The aim is to have that list grow longer and allow you to see the positives of taking a more confident attitude in life.
2. Pay Attention to Hygiene
This may seem an odd ritual to concentrate on for confidence but we shouldn’t underestimate how feeling physically clean can boost our confidence. Most people shower regularly and take care of their hygiene but sometimes when people are depressed or feeling low, they may not keep on top of that. Even if you are feeling low and depressed, make yourself wash up to some degree. It doesn’t need to be a shower it could be a wash of the face, brush of the teeth or a fresh change of clothes.
When we feel clean and refreshed, we tend to feel more confident. This is true even if we are not leaving the house that day or seeing anyone else. You don’t have to be cleaning up for someone; it’s still a boost for your self-confidence.
3. Get Daily Exercise
When we lack confidence, we often feel lazy and not willing to do much more than we have to. We have to break free of this feeling and find time and motivation for some daily exercise. According to the Mayo Clinic daily exercise can have a big impact on your emotional mood. Not only does it release feel good hormones but it also helps you maintain weight and feel more physically capable. (https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/fitness/in-depth/exercise/art-20048389).
When you feel more physically fit and strong you will find your confidence improves. You feel less nervous and more capable to face the world and you often feel more confident in your body.
4. Find ways to Manage your Stress
When we feel stressed, we are often lacking in confidence and all too often the stress we feel is unnecessary. So, we need to find a way each day to relieve stress. This can be something like yoga, meditation or doing something we find relaxing. Whatever you choose, just make sure it leaves you feeling relaxed.
Tips- try a detox from social media.
5. Set Yourself Confidence Goals
Give yourself daily confidence goals, making sure you ensure they are not too challenging. These could include talking to someone new, learning a new skill or even attending a party. Find your comfort zone and step outside it just a little. Each time you succeed you can extend the goal. Do not push yourself too far too soon, build slowly and allow your comfort level to grow.
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