Are You in a Toxic Relationship? Beware of These Signs
Most of us want to be in a relationship, but some relationships do more harm than good. While being alone can be a bit of a downer, it’s better than being in a toxic relationship.
Are you in a healthy relationship? Or a toxic one? Today, we will discuss some of the warning signs of a toxic relationship. Not all bad relationships are physically abusive. Some do mental and emotional damage.
It’s not always easy to spot the ‘bad guy’. Life isn’t a fairy tale- without the creepy smiles, dark music and evil laughs, it’s easy to mistake the ‘bad guy’ for your Prince Charming. Next thing you now, he’s changed and you’re unhappy. Your life isn’t over. Your relationship might be, but your life certainly is not!
You know the type, they usually shower you with love and make you feel amazing at first. You become emotionally dependent on them and feel trapped. Then they begin their dirty work- cutting people out of your life, ignoring you, breaking you down and making you feel bad.
Ask yourself if your relationship is enhancing your life or making it more stressful? You deserve the very best!
Toxic relationships can be difficult to leave. Toxic people often strip you of all your self esteem and can even make you dependent on them so you can’t easily leave. This just means the relationship is far worse than you even realize and that you need to find a way out!
It’s not comforting to face the world alone, even temporarily. However, a little alone time can have its advantages, too.
Signs Of A Toxic Relationship
There are some signs that you may be in a toxic relationship:
A consistent lack of trust. It doesn’t matter whether you don’t trust the other person, or they don’t trust you. Relationships are incredibly draining when there is a complete lack of trust. There’s never any peace.
You’re forced to compromise your values on a regular basis. When you’re put in the position to live outside of your beliefs, your self-respect suffers. A healthy relationship makes it easier to be at your best.
Your partner isn’t supportive of your success. They say you find out who your real friends are during times of distress, but the same can be said of periods of success. It’s not uncommon for people to be unsupportive when you’re doing well. The last thing you want is a partner that displays this type of behavior.
Dismissiveness. Are either of you dismissive toward the other? Your interests and projects should be respected. This works both ways. If you’re dismissive of your partner, your relationship could be better.
Your partner is unreliable. If you can’t count on your partner, your life is more stressful than it needs to be, and your relationship is harming you.
Going somewhere else after work is more relaxing than going home. What’s worse than spending a stressful day at work and deciding you’d rather go sit in a coffee shop alone than go home to your partner? It’s nice to have a home that is an oasis from your everyday stressors.
A lack of affection. There’s a lack of closeness when you’re in a toxic relationship. Ask yourself why you no longer want to touch each other.
You resist confiding in your partner. When you have something sensitive to discuss, it would be nice to be able to rely on your partner. If you find yourself hesitant to share, it could be a sign of a toxic relationship. Ideally, your partner is also your best friend.
The relationship is harmful to any children involved.Relationships should enhance the lives of the children. Frightened or discouraged children are a warning sign.
You feel unsafe with your partner.No relationship is worth risking your safety. Make your health and well-being a priority in your life.
You can think of other people with whom you’d rather be in a relationship. Do you find yourself wishing you could be in a relationship with a friend or coworker instead of with your current partner? Something is amiss if you’re imagining yourself with someone else.
Hopefully, you’ve reached the conclusion that your relationship is healthy, supportive, and a source of inspiration.
If you believe your relationship is toxic, take the time to really think about what the relationship is doing to you, mentally and emotionally. Be willing to get help from a relationship professional, too. Toxic relationships aren’t worth your time or peace of mind. Ensure that you’re taking the best possible care of yourself.