Toxic Love: How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship
Let’s talk about toxic love and how to get out of a toxic relationship. I’ve been deep in it before so I know the struggle. You want to leave, but feel stuck because of finances, children or you’re just too afraid to be on your own. Are you feeling stuck in a bad relationship? Do you want to know how to get out of toxic relationship?
Toxic relationships or abusive relationships come in many forms. Whether you’ve been emotionally, financially, psychologically, or physically abused, just know that THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY OUT! For many women though, it takes an average of 5 times before they leave for good. It took me that many! Why? Because leaving is hard. Staying in a toxic relationship is also hard. But, leaving can be even scarier… at first, especially if you feel like you have nowhere to go and no money. And it’s even harder to stay away, when you’re vulnerable and they beg for you to come back promising they’ve changed. So you ride that rollercoaster a few times until you eventually have enough.
You can get out of a negative relationship and move on with your life. But ending a toxic relationship can be difficult. Here are some tips on how to get out of a toxic relationship, safely!
Toxic Love: Quotes
Here are some encouraging quotes to help you leave your toxic relationship behind.
How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship: Tips To Leave Safely
Love shouldn’t feel toxic. Use this process to find out how to get out of a toxic relationship:
How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship: Questions To Ask
Start by asking yourself questions. The first step to ending a toxic relationship is to ask yourself several important questions.
Are you ready to move on and end things with this person?
Do you have emotional and financial support from family or friends to help you through this process? Or can you find a way to financially support yourself through this?
Have you tried to end things in the past and changed your mind? What happened and how can you prevent this from happening again? Clearly, things didn’t get any better.
How will your life change after the relationship is over?
Now write down 5 reasons you are leaving. Five things you hate about your partner or 5 things they’ve done to hurt you. Put this on your mirror in your new place… or somewhere you will see it daily.
How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship: Decide on your next steps
Toxic relationships can vary a lot. You may be in a controlling or abusive situation. You may also simply feel trapped and unhappy in a negative situation that sucks the life out of you. Depending on the type of relationship you’re in, the next steps can vary.
You may need to alert family and friends about your plans.
You may need to put together a survival bag, separate your finances, or take other measures.
If you have children, plan for their safety. Seek legal counsel to find out your rights and responsibilities for the state you live in.
Make a list of everything you need to do and follow it.
Where can you go? If you feel like you have nowhere to go, find a women’s shelter near you or seek assistance through government programs. I’ve known women who have had to camp out in their cars even until they secured a safe spot.
There is no shame in taking the steps to better yourself and in 6 months, everything can be much, much different!
How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship: Plan your break-up
You may want to ask a friend or family member to stay with you, or you may be able to do this on your own.
Figure out the best way to have a conversation with your partner about ending things.
You may want to use a public location if safety is a concern.
Practice what you’ll say to your partner. You can write this down and say it in front of a mirror. You can also put the text on your phone to make it easier to remember.
Remember to stay calm and confident throughout the planning stage.
If you can’t discuss the break up because you’re afraid, you can skip this step and just go!
Plan your place to stay after the break up.
Confront your partner, if it’s safe. Once you’re done with the planning, give yourself a specific day to confront your partner.
Put this date in your planner or schedule and stick to it. You may be tempted to ignore the set date, but it’s important to stay confident and go through with it.
Stay calm when you talk to your partner. Don’t let your partner convince you to give it another chance if you know this will be dangerous.
*If you’re in an unsafe relationship or situation you feel may lead to a serious confrontation, skip this step! Just leave and don’t look back.
How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship: Let your partner go
Avoid dragging out the break-up with your partner.
Learn to let your partner go with ease and confidence.
Don’t check on them on social media, respond to their texts, or read their emails.
Instead, make it a clean break so you can move on with your life.
Avoid all unnecessary contact. If you don’t have children, don’t contact them. If you have kids, keep the conversations quick and ONLY about the children and finances.
How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship: Rebuild Your Self Worth
Toxic love can TAKE A LOT OUT OF YOU- including your self worth. Often in a toxic relationship, we stay longer than we should because we end up feeling unworthy and unable to leave. The truth is, THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY OUT! It’s staying out that is the hard part.
Re-building your self worth will help you become strong enough and happy enough to stay away from your toxic partner.
Try reading these self love affirmations.
How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship: Take Some Time To Heal
Right now, you’re damaged. You need time to heal. Take some time for yourself. Do the things you love. Pick up a new hobby. Practice self care for your emotions. Get outside as much as you can! Treat yourself how you should be treated. Learn something new. Meet new friends. Meditate and practice deep breathing when you feel overwhelmed. Be easy on yourself. Avoid drama and set boundaries for new relationships.
How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship: Backlash
Figure out how you’ll handle the backlash. Unfortunately, people in toxic relationships may have a hard time letting you go quietly.
How will you handle it if your ex calls your job and complains to your boss? Or spreads rumours about you.
What will you do if your ex annoys your family and friends?
Are you prepared to handle gossip and rumors after the break-up?
It’s important to keep a level head and not seek revenge as a response because it can only make things worse. Instead, figure out how to protect yourself emotionally and legally.
Surround yourself with supportive and loving people who are on your side.
Wrapping Up: How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship
You can learn how to get out of a toxic relationship and move on after. The key is to free yourself of toxic love and learn to love again in a healthy way.
Avoid going back to your ex by constantly reminding yourself why you left in the first place.