You don’t like everyone and not everyone likes you! The sooner we accept it and not dwell on it, the better our lives become. We can’t get along with everyone and some people just don’t click. Maybe it’s a co-worker who seems to ‘have it out for you’ or your sister in law that you just can’t seem to get along with, you can’t please everyone and stressing out about it isn’t going to make things any better.
I’ve written about this topic a few times here, like how to get over it when people don’t like you and dealing with negative people. I’m writing about it again because learning to let go of what others think of me has changed my life dramatically! I’ve learned to detach and become fully aware that not everyone will like me or understand me, and that’s ok. It’s not something I need to dwell on or be upset about. I’ve learned to focus more on myself and the people that get me.
In reality, most people simply don’t care as much as we think they do anyway. And, there will ALWAYS be those people you can not please no matter what you do. So don’t waste too much time or energy on them.
Are you worried about what everyone thinks? You’re not alone. Many of us feel like this, especially when we are younger. In my 20s, I felt personally rejected if I found out someone didn’t like me. Now, in my 30s, it honestly doesn’t even phase me.
Boost your confidence and learn to be more resilient so you move past this and focus on yourself. Spend your time making and nurturing good connections with the right people who make you feel good.
Why We Do Feel The Need To Be Liked By Everyone?
Scientists believe this concern is rooted in evolution. There was a time that being ostracized from the group meant certain death. You simply couldn’t survive on your own 30,000 years ago. You needed help. It was useful to be concerned about how you appeared to others.
However, you don’t have to rely on a village of people to feed you or to keep you safe these days. You have a car. You can buy food at the store. You don’t need to fight off the savages in the next village. Those days are over.
7 Ideas to Help You Stop Caring What Everyone Thinks
Keeping these ideas in mind will help you to let go of outdated programming and live life on your own terms:
Almost no one actually cares. From the time we enter school until the day we say goodbye to life, it seems that we believe that others care about what we’re doing, how well we’re doing, and why we’re doing it. In reality, most people don’t really care all that much.
And if they don’t like you but they seem to care so much about your life, than it may be that they’re the ones who are insecure!
The smoke clears quickly. Even if you go through a divorce, have an affair, lose your job, or get a nose job, everyone will move on quickly. It won’t be a week before people go back to their own priorities.
Regardless of what you do, some people will approve, and some others won’t.
You’ll receive compliments on your $100k car from some people, while others will look down on you for making what they consider to be an outrageous purchase.
Lose 50 pounds and you’ll receive compliments from some, while others will tell you that you look unhealthy and should see a doctor.
You could adopt a family of third-world orphaned toddlers and someone will be upset that you brought foreigners into the country.
You adopted a cat? You should’ve gotten a dog. You saw the Rolling Stones? Their music sucks. You can’t please everyone. Ever.
They don’t know you. No one knows what is best for you, except you. And, you can’t even figure that out for yourself half of the time, but you have a better idea than your coworker or someone on social media. Others don’t know you well enough to have a valid opinion. Let that sink in.
The end results are yours to deal with, good or bad. The results of your choices are your responsibility. The bad choices you make are yours to clean up. The good results you receive in life are yours to enjoy. Make your own decisions, because you’re alone in dealing with the consequences.
Life is short. The years fly by, especially as you get older. One day just melts into the next. It only makes sense to live your life your way.
It gets easier. Once you stop basing your choices on the opinions of others, you quickly learn that it doesn’t matter what others think. It gets easier to care even less the next time. I promise!
You don’t need many people in your circle to thrive in today’s world. Those who matter are on your side. The rest are irrelevant. Stop being overly concerned about what others think and you’ll feel a new freedom to live the life you want.