How To Deal When Someone Doesn’t Like You
You could be a warm slice of my grandma’s old fashioned apple pie, and there will still be people who don’t like apples or even pie for that matter (Bye Felicia). And there will always be people who don’t like you! Not everyone likes you, but not everyone needs to.
If there’s one thing I have learned in my 30s that I wish I had in my 20s, it would be this lesson!
Chances are, someone thinks you’re too bossy, or lazy or weird and they may not like you for it. Some people don’t like you because you’re not successful enough (in their eyes) or maybe you’re too successful! Worst of all, some people won’t like you- just because.
Good news is- these are not your people and you need to just move on in order to find your tribe!
Not Everyone Needs To Like You
Not everyone likes me. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but I’m learning how to accept this by caring less about the people who don’t like me and more about the people who do! You can try your hardest to please everyone, only to suffer rejection or you can accept that you are not gonna be everyone’s cup of tea. I don’t even like tea.
It’s natural to want to be liked. But for people pleasers, being accepted and well-liked is often more important than being true to yourself. If you struggle to say no, or have difficulty voicing your own opinion and often obsess over what other’s think of you than chances are you are a people pleaser. Being too nice can be dangerous, leaving you emotionally drained, unsure of who you are, and can leave you vulnerable to abuse. Source
I’ve never been a total people pleaser, but I want people to like me and accept me for who I am. This was especially true when I was a bit younger. Something I’ve learned along the way that has helped me gain peace is to stop giving a F about what people think of me and to just simply be me. But I am human and sometimes hurts a bit when I find out someone doesn’t like me. I’ll often wonder, what’s wrong with me? What did I do to make that person not like me? But the truth is, it’s not about me. It’s about them. And I can do everything in my power to make that person like me, only to turn around and have someone else bash me. It would be impossible to please everyone.
Not everyone likes you, but loving yourself first is the key to happiness and finding who you really are.
Stop Letting It Bother You So Much
When you allow yourself to care too much about what other’s think of you, you are allowing that negativity in to your mind. You begin to have self-doubt and it affects your self-esteem.
When you’re in control of your thoughts, and don’t allow what other’s think or feel to get you down, you begin to believe in yourself again! Your self-confidence returns. You remove self-doubt and you start living life for YOU!
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I think I’m often misunderstood, because I have anxiety and I’m very empathetic. I often feel someone’s vibes before they even express their feelings. Sounds crazy, I know but it’s a real blessing and burden at the same time. I know I’m not liked by everyone, but I’m loved by plenty! Not everyone likes you!
You can be super sweet, and someone will think you’re fake or you can be opinionated and someone will think you’re rude! You simply can not please everyone. Let it go. Focus that energy on the people who do like you.
I love this quote by Dita Von Teese. And, personally I love peaches 🙂
When you’re younger, being popular is everything. High school is hard and the need to fit in is on over-drive. Being disliked, or worse-being bullied can lead to depression.
There’s a feeling of empowerment in not giving a damn and in embracing who you are. When you conform to meet someone else’s expectations, you lose what makes you, unique! By showing your vulnerable side and remaining true to yourself, you make real friends and find the people you are most compatible with.
Sure, someone might think you’re weird, but someone else will think you’re inspiring!
Dealing With People Who Don’t Like You
Life is too short to be anyone but you, but sometimes we are forced to be around people who don’t like you. Maybe it’s a coworker or a family member. Don’t let them fill you with self doubt.
Remind yourself about that juicy peach. Step back, it’s out of your control. Bear with them, instead of avoiding them. Put on your poker face, remaining professional at the workplace and respectful of family members. You don’t have to be besties, but you can be the bigger person and get over it.
Allow for space between you and those who don’t like you. When it gets too much, go for a walk or busy yourself in another room focusing on something other than the hater!
Not everyone understands you. In my perfect world, everyone would love and understand you. Embrace your weirdness and love yourself first. The rest will come! And, if you liked this post comment down below:)
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I personally don’t give a damn if someone likes me or not . I always ask people , does that person feed you or give you breath , if not move on with your life.
Being authentically you attracts the right people. If they don’t like you for being yourself, keep it moving!
Absolutely agree
I think it`s very normal that not everyone will like you, just as it`s normal you can not like everyone.I think the best way to deal with it is to accept things as they are and move on.
Over the years I have started to worry less about whether I am liked or not. It used to make me anxious when I was younger.
I love your apple pie reference. It’s so true! Amy Aberasturi https://capturingcash.com/
Believe me I am a person with anxiety disorder and tbh I understand this that not everyone or rather no one likes me no matter whatever good stuff I do. When I was younger it was easier for me to digest this but now with all my anxiety issues it is sort of tough.
I used to care so much about what others thought of me! I am so glad I am finally to the point where I literally don’t care. This is a very good post and something we all should realize and stop caring so much about.
Whatever you do you can not be in good book of everyone.And I really don’t care if people likes me or not
I’m glad not everyone likes me hahaha I feel like that’s too much pressure!
everyone should remember that the best thing you can do is to like yourself and not care who likes or doesn’t like you! Self-love!
Hey!
The most important thing is that you like and love yourself. What others think isn’t important.
Live your life!
Xxx, Eva
http://www.notanotherdiva.com
Easy to say but hard to accept. I guess time can also help.. You’ll get along when maturity hits you.
I’ve come to that point in my life when I really don’t give a damn about what others think about me. As long as I know that I didn’t do anything wrong, or have nothing to be ashamed about, then I’m good. 🙂
With time I have managed to find my tribe and to share experiences with likeminded people. I have learned that there are different personalities that crave for different things and that path with people cross and also grow apart.
Well said
I wish that everyone would think the same way. It’s okay to not like everyone and it’s okay to not be liked by someone.
ohhh.. I cried.. thanks for this wonderful post.. I always tell myself that I don’t have any obligation to explain my action to everyone or impress them or make them like me but my action is different. I often see myself pleasing others and I always get hurt when it is still not enough.. Thanks again for this post. It inspires me.
Thank you for your honesty. I’ve been telling a friend about this who’s been having a tough time coping with changes.
Not everyone needs to like you! It’s as simple as that. More people need to read this.
I love this post! I always say if someone doesn’t like me, who cares! Life is too short to care about what anyone thinks of you! Keep being your amazing and fabulous self! ❤️
I absolutely love this and agree with your words completely! I only wish I had read it when I was younger – it was definately a tough pill to swallow! 🙂 Looking forward to your future posts!
This is so true. Honestly, if someone don’t like me, I just don’t care. I don’t want to please every person just to like me. As long I knew by myself that I did not do anything wrong.
Some one said Ignorance is bliss, and I seriously follow that.
I just don’t care about people opinion.
I wish I had read this blog when I was younger, I felt stressed before trying to make a certain person not to judge me negatively. 😊
Me too! Truth is even at my age I still let it get to me a little bit but I’m definitely learning how go let it go and focus on the positive ppl:)
You don’t need to please and explain yourself to everyone. Just be true and everything will fall in the right places.
I just don’t care lol, but the reality it hurts but you son’t need to please them just to like you. Don’t mind them and go on with your life.
So true, we should always try hard to love ourselves more and focus on the bright side. Being liked can’t feed us anyway.
Thanks for sharing this with us; it’s very quotable 🙂
I believe that people are entitled to their own opinion…negative opinions only affects us if we will let them. Instead of thinking what other people think of us..why not showing them success and happiness and contentment.
Yes that’s one way to deal with them:)
Am I the only one who read this title and thought of Rose Nylund in The Golden Girls? One of the classic episodes had Rose struggling because one person just didn’t like her. If you haven’t seen it, you simply must after reading this fantastic post!
I’ll have to watch it!! Thank you for the sweet comment ❤️❤️
Steph, I have been working in a male dominated profession for over 10 years now and I have learned a great (more so than my pre work years) that some people will just dislike you for no reason, for being you, for being intelligent, even for being beautiful too lol but I figured that if someone don’t like me, it is their loss lol. Life is indeed too short to be someone you are not!
I loved reading this.
Thanks so much for the warm comment you left on my blog. Means a lot!
You are a Kinging Queen, darling. More power!
Lucky you working in a male dominated job place lol:( I’ve learned to brush it off more with life experience but sometimes when it’s family members that you feel don’t like you, it can hard to let go cuz you’ll have to see them etc. Always gives me anxiety ugh!
Thanks for the comment!! I’m glad you enjoyed it! And I always enjoy your blog, it’s one of my faves!
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I totally agree that we cannot avoid people who hate us… But we need to work with it to the best of our ability
I have FINALLY learned in my mid 70’s that …what other people think about you is just their opinion and has NOTHING to do with you. And suddenly, it was easy.