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Why I Kept My Blog A Secret

I Didn’t Share My Blog With Family Or Friends

You’re probably going to think I’m totally weird and maybe even kinda crazy, but my friends and family have no clue I blog! I started blogging about 6 months ago, and I’ve been keeping it a secret from my family and friends ever since!

I didn’t really intend to keep my blog a secret, at least not for this long. When I started this blog, the learning curve was (and still kinda is) so steep that I wanted to get it up and running smoothly before I revealed it to anyone I knew. But, I became so comfortable being able to share whatever I wanted without fear. I can’t explain it, but it’s much easier to share with total strangers from around the world than it is to share some personal stories with my closest friends and family. That and the fact that I didn’t think they would understand. There’s a misconception about blogging… that it’s just a hobby or that we do it to be cool! Or that you’re just doing it because you want to be famous and then when you don’t become famous you look like a big failure… But this isn’t the case for me!

Why I Started To Blog

I started this blog for a school project, and quickly realized how much I missed writing. Ideas started flowing and whispers (okay more like screams from spammy Pinterest links) of how to make money blogging filled my head. So I got to work. But before I shared with anyone I knew, I wanted my blog to come across as well-established. I didn’t want the added pressure of failing in front of everyone I knew. If I was gonna ‘fail’ I would rather do it in private. I had no idea where this blog was going, or what it was going to be. So I blogged in private-ish, sharing it only with strangers… some of which I even consider friends now thanks to The Secret Tribe and Bloggers Traffic Community!

Why I Kept My Blog Secret From My Family And Friends

Fear! Fear that they would judge me, that they would think I was silly for starting a blog as a career path, or worse… that I would fail in front of everyone! I thought most people wouldn’t understand what I was trying to do with this blog. I decided to keep it to seperate from them, until I reached my goals so I don’t have the added pressure to get there! I’m sure this doesn’t make sense to a lot of people, because family and friends are there to support you… but for someone with anxiety, it’s not always looked at like that. As irrational as it may sound, I hope some of you feel the same way!

How I Kept My Blog A Secret From My Family And Friends

This part was surprisingly easy. I’m in school for social media marketing, so I’m on my computer a lot anyway. And, I’ve used this blog as a few school assignments so that also made it easy. I don’t have an instagram for this site, but I do for tenthingsabout.com, you can follow me here Ten_Things_About. As you can see, I don’t have any personal photos on there. I also have a twitter account for Steph’s Social Pie, but I make sure no family or friends or even friends of friends are on there! I have a pretty good reach on Pinterest currently, but keep in underwraps from anyone I know. I even went as far as blocking a few people from Pinterest for now, just until I’m ready to reveal. As I recently launched a few other niche blogs, one a very localized blog, I understand I will be found. My local site- Discoverniagarawithme.com it’s getting local hits because it ranks on the first page of Google search already, being a very niche blog. Someone searching for a local festival or restaurant might see my site, which I want, but not yet. Not until it’s a little more established. It only has a handful of articles but I’m building it up.

How Do I Tell My Family And Friends About My Blog?

I plan to do a little reveal around my one year blogiversary. I want to create a Facebook page for Steph’s Social Pie, and Discover Niagara With Me, so I need to tell everyone before I launch that. I will do both at the same time, I think. But for now, I’m still growing as a blogger. I feel so much more confident in my blogging abilities now than I did 6 months ago, obviously. I don’t think they’ll be shocked because I was a writer for nearly 10 years. In fact, many people have even said why don’t you start a blog Steph? So why am I so afraid? I mean part of me sees a lot of support, but there’s still that little (big) part of me that fears judgement and failure. Writing for established publications was different. I didn’t have to explain myself or my job. I think there’s a misconception around blogging, that it’s just a hobby or I just sit around and write about beauty or fashion… which is fine btw but there are so many other bloggers out there! Like me:)

I have no regrets about keeping my blog a secret, and I’m actually really glad I did. I look back at when I first started, and I have come so far but I’m not quite where I need to be yet. I think I would have struggled a lot more in the beginning if I had the additional pressure of everyone I know watching. So for now, it’s just me and you! And, it’s our little secret:)

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21 Comments

  1. I don’t think that your decision to keep it from everyone was out of fear, I think it was 10000% wisdom (even if you didn’t know how truly wise you were at the time!)

    I wish I had done this myself.

    I shared it early on… and now they all read my content and drop their opinions on my plate like their opinion is something I should consume before writing anything again….. so disheartening.

    I tried finding the IP address of some of my biggest critics and blocking them, but it’s just too late. I let the cat out of the bag and I wish I had held back.

    I think you’re so darn strong for doing this. I really applaud it… and like everything else you do… it inspires me.

    Keep rocking it, babe! Can’t wait for that bloggiversary!

    1. Thank you 🙏 I’m so sorry you’re dealing with nasty negativity! But your posts help and inspire so many ppl!
      The bloggiversary is gonna be epic!! There may be booze involved lmao feel free to join me:)

  2. Lori Roach says:

    Hi Steph!
    When I started my blog 8 months ago, I only told a few friends and family. A few more found out organically, but the vast majority have no idea to this day! And I like it that way, for all of the reasons you stated here – that I wasn’t very good at first and that blogging isn’t real work, and more. As my blog grows, so does my confidence level, and sooner or later, I’ll make a big reveal…or people will just figure it out. I’ve made no effort to keep it hidden, just didn’t advertise it. Good article!

    Lori

    1. Hey Lori! Thanks for stopping by:) I feel like I’m more comfortable expressing myself to complete strangers I guess! Especially in the beginning! I dunno why?! I didn’t used to be like this! I’m gonna break out of my shell soon tho!

  3. I didn’t necessarily keep my blog a secret, but for a long time I didn’t ever bring it up either. I had a coworker once ask why anyone would pay me to blog and it made me feel kind of awful. But now? I talk about it because it’s part of me. And that’s okay.

  4. I so get this. My friends and family dont get what I do but thats ok with me.

  5. Dannii says:

    I don’t think a lot of people understand blogging, so I totally get why you would keep it secret. My family don’t even read it haha.

    1. That’s how I feel!! I don’t think they’ll understand what I do!

  6. I did a similar thing with my blog. I did a “soft realease” on by birthday to close friends ( how could they criticize my work on my bday?!) It’s totally normal. When we are learning a new thing it’s common not to be confident about it. But it will come with time for sure.

    1. A soft release! Like it!

  7. I get it! I used to keep my blog a secret from family and friends too. Then I decided I might as well be honest about it. Now my mom reads! Sometimes she’s shocked, but eh, it’s my life.

  8. Echo Aspnes says:

    I don’t think you are wrong for keeping it a secret. I think it totally gave you the strength and inspiration to be yourself.

  9. interesting post… I won’t say I hid mine from family, but rather, I haven’t informed them

    1. Really? It’s so interesting to me to see how many people keep it from their family! Maybe not to my extreme as hiding it, but not actively seeking their support! Good to know!

  10. I guess many other people do too

  11. Hannah Marie says:

    Nothing wrong in keeping it a secret! Just enjoy what you are doing, reveal it when you are ready.

  12. I have been blogging for 4 years and am pretty successful at it and I have not told most of my friends and family. Its just not something I think everyone is interested in knowing. My close people support me. but I dont blog for attention or praise just because eI love to write so their approval or disapproval isn’t important to me on this because it is a passion of mien and mine alone.

    1. That is a great way to think of it!

  13. KiSheyna Durham says:

    I used to be like this in college. Now I make a living off it of amazing but I was just like you!

  14. Honestly.. you’re not alone. No one in my family knows that I blog except my brother. I see where you’re coming from, its not the fear but its the negative judgement and the stigma that people get as soon as they hear the word “blogger”, because for them, its just something that people do to sound ‘cool’!! And that basically they do nothing!!! Which is quite frustrating.. but yeah, some of my friends who are very supportive know that I blog. But not all!! (Hâte the negative ones) Thanks for sharing girl!! Gives me some motivation too!!

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