Why I Don’t Share My Blog With Family Or Friends
(Updated) You’re probably going to think I’m totally weird and maybe even kinda crazy, but my friends and family have no clue I blog! I started blogging years ago, and I’ve been keeping it a secret from my family and friends ever since!
I didn’t really intend to keep my blog a secret, at least not for this long. When I started this blog, the learning curve was (and still is) so steep that I wanted to get it up and running smoothly before I revealed it to anyone I knew.
But, I became so comfortable being able to share whatever I wanted without fear. It’s much easier to share with total strangers from around the world than it is to share some personal stories with my closest friends and family.
That, and the fact that I didn’t think they would understand. There’s a misconception about blogging… that it’s just a hobby or that we do it to be cool!
Or that you’re just doing it because you want to be famous and then when you don’t become famous you look like a big failure… But this isn’t the case for me!
“I was worried there would be eye rolls and secret wishes I would fail.”
I knew that if I told a few people, it would slowly get out. Some people won’t take me seriously and I didn’t want any bad juju.
Many wouldn’t take it seriously and those who did, would ask tons of questions and I hate being the centre of attention.
Why I Started To Blog
I started this blog for a school project, and quickly realized how much I missed writing. Ideas started flowing and whispers (okay more like screams from spammy Pinterest links) of how to make money blogging filled my head.
So I got to work. But before I shared with anyone I knew, I wanted my blog to come across as well-established. I didn’t want the added pressure of failing in front of everyone I knew.
If I was gonna ‘fail’ I would rather do it in private.
I had no idea where this blog was going, or what it was going to be. So I blogged in private-ish, sharing it only with strangers… some of which I even consider friends now thanks to The Secret Tribe and Bloggers Traffic Community!
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Why I Kept My Blog Secret From My Family And Friends
Fear! Fear that they would judge me. That they would think I was silly for starting a blog as a career path, or worse… that I would fail in front of everyone!
I thought most people wouldn’t understand what I was trying to do with this blog. I was afraid of the eye rolls and secret wishes for failure.
So, I decided to keep it to seperate from them, until I reached my goals so I don’t have the added pressure to get there!
I’m sure this doesn’t make sense to a lot of people, because family and friends are there to support you… but for someone with anxiety, it’s not always looked at like that. As irrational as it may sound, I hope some of you feel the same way!
I also wanted to connect with my target audience. My family and friends are just small part of my potential target audience. I had to make sure there was more out there!
Plus I am not a ‘oh look at me’ type of person. Despite being a news reporter and now blogger, I am a really private person. I just love media and writing!
How I Kept My Blog A Secret From My Family And Friends
This part was surprisingly easy. I’m in school for social media marketing, so I’m on my computer a lot anyway. And, I’ve used this blog as a few school assignments so that also made it easy.
I have a twitter account for Stephsocial.com, but I make sure no family or friends or even friends of friends are on there! I have a pretty good reach on Pinterest currently, but keep in underwraps from anyone I know. I even went as far as blocking a few people from Pinterest for now, just until I’m ready to reveal.
How Do I Tell My Family And Friends About My Blog?
I plan to do a little reveal one day. I want to create a Facebook page for Stephsocial.com. But for now, I’m still growing as a blogger. I feel so much more confident in my blogging abilities now than I did a few years ago, obviously.
I don’t think they’ll be shocked because I was a writer for nearly 10 years. In fact, many people have even said why don’t you start a blog, Steph?
So why am I so afraid? I mean part of me sees a lot of support, but there’s still that little (who am I kidding… big) part of me that fears judgement and failure.
Writing for established publications was different. I didn’t have to explain myself or my job. I think there’s a misconception around blogging, that it’s just a hobby or I just sit around and write about beauty or fashion… which is fine btw but there are so many other bloggers out there! Like me:)
I have no regrets about keeping my blog a secret, and I’m actually really glad I did. I look back at when I first started, and I have come so far but I’m not quite where I need to be yet. I think I would have struggled a lot more in the beginning if I had the additional pressure of everyone I know watching. So for now, it’s just me and you! And, it’s our little secret:)
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Update: I May NEVER Tell
It’s been years since I started this blog, and we have grown to over 100,000 monthly views and thousands of subscribers! Last year, I crushed my biggest goal ever- getting accepted into AdThrive Publishers, which is one of the world’s largest ad companies. I’m so proud of the site I created and I love that it’s my little secret.
P.S. My husband knows, my best friend knows, and you too! I just might keep it that way:) Thanks for stopping by!